Self-Mastery - I control
Self-mastery is the ability to control yourself in all aspects of your life, to move forward confidently and consistently towards your goals. You know your purpose, and you have the self-discipline needed to get things done in a deliberate, positive, and focused way. It is the ability to govern yourself but also to nurture and provide for your needs. It is having those around you as a positive support, not as a necessary crutch, just to be able to live your life.
Self-mastery is broken down into 13 skills. Each one has a different focus within your life and is its own, individual skill.
Self-confidence
This is a mix of self-approval and self-assurance. How positively you feel about yourself and how valuable you are. Read more…
Self-approval
This is how much you value yourself and the criteria with which you do this. Read more…
Self-assurance
This is how much you believe in your abilities, skills or ability to learn new skills. Read more…
Self-respect
This is how you deserve to be treated by others, based on your own perceived value. Read more…
Self-discipline
Your ability to consistently stick to plans and timetables. How much you can deny yourself or resist temptation to the opposite of your goals. Read more…
Self-efficacy
Your toolbox of skills and knowledge to deal with most everyday situations and some not so every day! Read more…
Self-motivation
Your ability to inspire yourself with the energy and drive to keep going, sometimes in the face of adversity but also as a support against boredom and apathy, for long term goals requiring consistency.
Self-awareness
Your ability to look at your behaviour and to make changes where needs be. To reflect on how you treat others and how you may trigger their feelings. To be aware that your behaviour may trigger negative and positive behaviour in others. To accept your failures and forgive yourself and learn.
Self-sufficiency
Your ability to be able to provide for your needs and support yourself, mainly by your own skills and will power. Read more…
Self-compassion
To forgive yourself for your perceived failures such as falling short, shame, tiredness, ignorance, apathy, meanness to others or clumsiness. No one is perfect and we always learn something from our mistakes. No one can always succeed, win, be perfect or be the best. No one always says or does the right thing, sometimes we may not even know what that is.
Self-validation
The ability to justify to yourself the reasons for your actions and decisions. You decide what is right for you without needing others to support you and agree. To believe in and trust your views as yours to own, even in the face of resistance.
Self-authority
The ability to allow yourself to take actions and make decisions without the permission or support of others.
Self-positivity
The ability to keep your emotions balanced and mostly positive without needing others to bolster your mood. To be able to weather adversity without external help and support.
Read more here about each skill and how it relates to an assertive mindset.