Will learning assertiveness make me more rude or aggressive?
No the main aim of assertiveness is fairness and balance for all parties involved. Aggression is only concerned with getting the aggressor’s needs met at the expense of others without consideration for other’s goals or feelings. Some people may interpret assertive behaviour as rude if they have come from a passive background. If you are behaving in a truly assertive manner then most times you are not being rude. Deliberately insulting someone is rude, expressing how you feel or asking for something you need is not. Being assertive is a universal behaviour, neither masculine nor feminine, and is not intended to be used exclusively by either sex.
Where can I buy your affirmation cards from?
You can purchase my various affirmation card packs from my shop link in the top bar. There are several selections: Growth Mindset, Drive & Determination, Relating to Others, Joy & Confidence, Balance & Calm and of course Assertiveness. You can buy the four packs (A to D) separately (12 cards per pack) or your own selection of 12 mixed cards. The cards are available to buy as the complete set and all cards are available as beautiful printed cards or more affordably as a digital download for you to print at your leisure at home (Physical cards are only available in the UK)
Can anyone benefit from learning assertiveness skills?
Learning to be more assertive starts with your current personality. You may be confident and outgoing but lack the actual skill of being fair and considerate, or be shy and anxious and it may take you longer to build inner confidence. Anyone can benefit from learning more about assertiveness phrasing and how they actually speak with others to avoid unwittingly offending or inciting aggression from others. Those of a shyer nature will also gain benefits from verbal skills to project being more assertive while they build their inner mindset and confidence.
How can I learn to be more assertive?
Reading and keeping up with my blog will help you gain some insights into learning to be more assertive. Alternatively if you would like more information, you can purchase my reasonably priced everyday guide to being more assertive e-book from my Etsy store. You can buy this from my shop link in the top bar. My e-book guide goes through the mindset foundations of learning to be more assertive, through to how to actually phrase your speech to sound more assertive. Included are a few exercises to help you tailor the techniques for your life.
how do you intend the use the affirmation cards?
My affirmation card packs are a great way to give you little reminders throughout your day to help you keep on track. Apart form being lovely to look at you can place them appropriately around your home, office desk, on a pin board, inspiration table, alter or vision board. They even make a great gift for a friend or relative!
What are the three key skills of assertiveness to learn?
Confidence. Clarity. Controlled. Self-confidence comes with believing that you can handle most social circumstances effectively using assertiveness. Learning how identify, and clearly ask for what you actually need. Being able to honestly express your opinions, how you feel and also how you’d like others to behave towards you in the future. Control is about having self-control and control over the conversation. If you want to be more assertive, you will need to focus on your interactions (especially challenging people and situations), assess the other persons behaviour and adapt accordingly to keep interactions on track.
is assertiveness easy and quick to learn?
I believe learning assertiveness is a lifelong journey, a mindset and skills to cultivate and build upon through time and personal experiences. I don’t believe its something that you can learn by quickly reading a book or doing a day course. There will always be something new in your individual life that comes along that you will need to learn new assertive skills for. I offer personal mentoring for this reason for those that wish to make learning assertiveness a long term objective.