Assertive Mindset and Lifestyle

“Apart from the obvious enjoyable time with friends socialising, having a chat over a coffee with friends can help with de-stressing, resetting and finding the mental focus to move forward. ”

As part of my everyday life I often like to meet up with friends for a coffee (or something stronger!) and catch up with their news, life and emotional well-being! Apart from the obvious enjoyable time socialising, having a chat over a coffee with friends (or a life mentor) can help with de-stressing, resetting and finding mental focus. Talking over your problems with others (not necessarily a professional) can help you find emotional balance and an outlet for repressed feelings. It can also bring about connections, advice, direction or a fresh perspective for your emotional, mental or financial problems.

When first gathering all the information I could on the subject of assertiveness, I had thought that it was simply a skill that I needed to quickly implement. Many books and much research later, I discovered that actually assertiveness was not just a verbal skill but a mindset, an full-time mindset to follow. Not only a skill of phrasing your conversations correctly in certain situations but building core mental and emotional foundations. Solid foundations such as self-confidence, mental resilience, emotional balance, self-assurance and self-approval. Strengthening your inner character alongside growing self confidence with verbal phrasing.

I first started researching assertive mindset and skills techniques for myself. I’m quiet and polite but I wanted a change in life. Once I had started working on my own behaviour, skills and mindset I noticed that other people admitted suffering the very issues that I had been researching into. During my coffee chats with friends, I discovered that they felt they had unfair relationships, had to put up with bad behaviour, had feelings of being bullied or pressured into doing things they didn’t want to do or simply felt undermined, insulted, ignored, misunderstood or unappreciated.

I felt that other people were falling into the same confidence drains and emotional traps that I was learning to unlatch from. I decided to consolidate the most crucial parts of my research into a handy guide to help others rediscover and empower themselves. See below for the link!